I always wonder if there is any rule book or 'Bible' or 'Geeta' or 'Quran' or 'Granth Sahib Ji' (apologize, if any offense for referring these holy books because of my ignorance) for building strong relationship between two person or more! I believe we have enough experience of living to judge what is right or wrong for us in a relationship but we are ignorant to express and pretend to behave to improve but fails each time when it comes to us personally because of "me", "my", "I" or "bull shit ego". No doubt, we have to differentiate between "ego" and "self respect". Believe me in good relationships most of time, which is present that is "personal ego" than "self respect". Again it is also a vast subject to write on this difference and i will use another blog to write one day. Anyway, any good relationship want to grow, sustain and live happily around two or more people with passing time with prosperity and filling lot of gaps and spaces of one's loneliness.
Today, I read interesting quote "Always wrong persons teach the right lessons of life" This gave me thought why to wait get wrong and then sharing for the benefits of others not for self.
My this writing is purely for introspection and highlighting how I can improve myself further in any relationship or especially whom I care a lot in my life!
Let me think what is missing or known unknown! and I started listing down as minimum to 20 illustrative list of my emotions sphere before exploring one by one its detail dimensions:
I think now i can write one page or many on each point but let me limit myself to think loud for self & whoever is reading this writing to do some self introspection and think in his or her way before influencing much rather than they start believing in these points like I will do now onward. Most importantly, the message that I would also like to pass that respect each other time, take out, give and spend "qualitative" time (not sitting next to each other silently, waiting for each other or sleeping ;) with each other as much as you can as this is also key of healthy & happy long relationship, which you might be missing at the moment although it is just so close to you or within you & your reach. Wake up and grab it before it slips far away from you!
Sometime, I think I must write book to expand my thinking process to challenge society with positive and right thinking to be healthy in relationships than building bodies to look healthy. I am improving my nature of expression through this writing and wishing one day it will reflect in my personality to demonstrate on time with love to my loved ones.
Thank you for reading and I will be very happy if it makes a little difference in your way of thinking to build strong relationship in your life :)
Signing off with lot of love & expression!
Best Regards,
Vikas Sharma :)
Today, I read interesting quote "Always wrong persons teach the right lessons of life" This gave me thought why to wait get wrong and then sharing for the benefits of others not for self.
My this writing is purely for introspection and highlighting how I can improve myself further in any relationship or especially whom I care a lot in my life!
Let me think what is missing or known unknown! and I started listing down as minimum to 20 illustrative list of my emotions sphere before exploring one by one its detail dimensions:
- Being in Trust or Trust must be between two or in relationship
- Value of each other's interest & personal secrets
- Less Compromise or Avoid Sacrifice or more adjustments
- Healthy to argue with "Pause & Stress" rule of communication and always keep communication "Live" (Its difficult but start practicing with conscious mind)
- Listening each other - no pre-assumptions before one finish
- Never hold grudges between each other longer than 24 hrs
- Do not limit expressions of Love - no one is bigger or smaller in one relationship
- Open to take each other advice - following is one's choice with logical thinking
- Practice more on saying 'I need you' or 'I need help' or 'I am sorry' or 'I love You'
- Sex is very personal & confidential subject between two person
- Nobody can understand your relationship other than both of you. So, please give & spend each other qualitative time to know more and develop memorable moments.
- Accept that no one is perfect...so support sometime each other imperfection (s)
- Don't be afraid to have tough conversations to find solution
- Never fight with loud words in front of kids or anyone other than you
- Understand significantly each other background or past & never bring as weapon
- "Is the subject in discussion really important or urgent for both of you?"
- Allow each other some degree of freedom to live the way one wants for happiness
- Dreaming is very important integral part of relationship. So dream really big!
- "Do other care for me!" before I must ask self "Do I care others like I am expecting for myself!!" Answer this question always before taking any decision!
- We are human and mistakes are integral part of our livings. So learn forgiving and moving forward for better relationships.
I think now i can write one page or many on each point but let me limit myself to think loud for self & whoever is reading this writing to do some self introspection and think in his or her way before influencing much rather than they start believing in these points like I will do now onward. Most importantly, the message that I would also like to pass that respect each other time, take out, give and spend "qualitative" time (not sitting next to each other silently, waiting for each other or sleeping ;) with each other as much as you can as this is also key of healthy & happy long relationship, which you might be missing at the moment although it is just so close to you or within you & your reach. Wake up and grab it before it slips far away from you!
Sometime, I think I must write book to expand my thinking process to challenge society with positive and right thinking to be healthy in relationships than building bodies to look healthy. I am improving my nature of expression through this writing and wishing one day it will reflect in my personality to demonstrate on time with love to my loved ones.
Thank you for reading and I will be very happy if it makes a little difference in your way of thinking to build strong relationship in your life :)
Signing off with lot of love & expression!
Best Regards,
Vikas Sharma :)